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PRE-MARRIAGE ORIENTATION Updated.pptx sadw
- 1. PRE-MARRIAGE ORIENTATION June 27, 2025 2nd FloorLGU Main Building New Conference Room PMOC TEAM OF SANTA FE, LEYTE
- 2. LEGAL BASIS •Presidential Decree965 •Executive Order No. 209, s. 1987 •Local Government Code •Responsible Parenthood and Reproductive Health (RPRH) Law
- 3. PURPOSE • The purposeof PMOC is to provide would- be couples with information they will need in preparation for the challenges of married life, along with their responsibilities as spouses, family members, and future parents. It will also give them a better understanding of marriage so they can affirm their decision to get married based on sufficient knowledge and clear expectations.
- 4. THE PMOC SESSION •Pre-MarriageOrientation •All couple applicants for marriage license have to undergo the Pre- marriage Orientation (PMO) •Pre-Marriage Counseling • All couples with one or both partners who are 18-25 years old
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- 9. TopicOne:MarriageandRelationships SESSION 2: Rolesand Relationships
- 10. TopicOne:MarriageandRelationships SESSION 2: Rolesand Relationships •MEIF – Marriage Expectation Inventory Form
- 11. TopicOne:MarriageandRelationships SESSION 3: Elementsof a Harmonious Relationship
- 12. TopicOne:MarriageandRelationships SESSION 3: Elementsof a Harmonious Relationship WORDS OF AFFIRMATION QUALITY TIME GIFTS ACTS OF SERVICE PHYSICAL TOUCH Compliments, praises, or words of encouragement Partner’s undivided attention, spending one-on- one time and doing activities together Symbols of love, like flowers, chocolate, simple personally made gifts Willingly provide a helping hand on household chores, home project, running errands, walking the dog, or doing other small jobs Sitting close together, holding hands, hugging, cuddling, kissing, having sex.
- 13. TopicOne:MarriageandRelationships •SESSION 4: OtherRelated Laws on Marriage
- 14. TopicOne:MarriageandRelationships SESSION 4: OtherRelated Laws on Marriage •The Philippine Constitution and the Family Code recognize that marriage, as an inviolable social institution, is the foundation of the family and shall be protected by the State.
- 15. TopicOne:MarriageandRelationships SESSION 4: OtherRelated Laws on Marriage • Further, Republic Act 10354 also known as the Responsible Parenthood and Reproductive Health Law, affirms the roles of the State in protecting the family. This law also promotes the rights of the couples to exercise their reproductive rights, particularly their right to have their desired number, timing, and spacing of children within the demands of responsible parenthood through universal access to reproductive health information and services, including family planning.
- 16. TopicOne:MarriageandRelationships SESSION 4: OtherRelated Laws on Marriage •In addition, there are other laws in the Philippines that protect and nurture marriage, and which can be resorted to in case of violence or abuse in the home. Married couples should know and observe these laws.
- 17. TopicOne:MarriageandRelationships SESSION 4: OtherRelated Laws on Marriage •Republic Act No. 9262: Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children Act of 2004 (Promulgated March 8, 2004) • Physical Abuse • Sexual Abuse • Psychological Abuse • Economic Abuse
- 18. TopicOne:MarriageandRelationships SESSION 4: OtherRelated Laws on Marriage •Republic Act No. 9710: Magna Carta of Women (2009)
- 19. TopicOne:MarriageandRelationships SESSION 4: OtherRelated Laws on Marriage •Republic Act No. 8353: Anti- Rape Law of 1997
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- 21. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood SESSION 2: Dutiesand Responsibilities of Parents
- 22. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood SESSION 2: Dutiesand Responsibilities of Parents •What are the duties and responsibilities of a parents? 1. Providing physical care, love and basic need 2. Inculcating in them the right values, good conduct, and discipline 3. Teaching them their roles and responsibilities 4. Developing their social competence 5. Education 6. Citizenship training 7. Educating children in age-appropriate aspects of human sexuality and gender sensitivity 8. Spiritual and value formation
- 23. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood Session 3: EffectiveParent- Child Communication
- 24. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood Session 3: EffectiveParent-Child Communication • Let the child know that you are interested and involved and that you will help when needed+ Give full attention when your child wants to talk to you. • Unless other people need to be part of the discussion, hold conversations in private. • The best communication between you and the child will occur when others are not around. • Embarrassing the child or putting him on the spot in front of others will lead only to resentment and hostility, not good communication.
- 25. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood Session 3: EffectiveParent-Child Communication • Do not tower over your child, Physically get down to the child’s level, then talk. • If you are angry about a behavior or an incident, do not attempt to communicate until you regain your cool because you cannot be objective. It is better to stop, settle down and talk to the child later. • If you are very tired, you will have to make an extra effort to be an active listener. Genuine active listening is hard work and is very difficult when your mind and body are already tired.
- 26. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood Session 3: EffectiveParent-Child Communication • Listen carefully and politely, Do not interrupt the child when he is trying to tell his/her story, Be as courteous to your child as you would be to your best friend. • Do not ask why but do ask what happened+ Do not be judgmental; let the child explain • If you have a knowledge of the situation, tell the child the information that you know or have been told. Then let him tell you his/her own version • Adult talking – “You’ll talk when I’m finished,” “I know what’s best for you,” “Just do what I say and that will solve the problem” – does not work. Keep adult talking, preaching, and moralizing to a minimum because they are not helpful in getting, and keeping communication open.
- 27. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood Session 3: EffectiveParent-Child Communication • Do not use put-down words (like dumb, stupid, lazy) or derogatory statements (like “Stupid, that makes no sense at all” or “What do you know, you’re just a child”). • Assist the child in planning some specific steps to the solution. • Show that you accept the child, regardless of what he/she has or has not done. • Reinforce the child for keeping communication open. Do this by accepting him and praising his efforts to communicate.
- 28. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood SESSION 4: Rightsof the Child
- 29. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood SESSION 4: Rightsof the Child 1. Children have the right to be born well once they are conceived. 2. Children have the right to a wholesome family life. 3. Children have the right to develop into a happy, useful and active member of society. 4. Children have the right to a healthy and vigorous life 5. Children have the right to enrich and strengthen their character through a moral and upright life
- 30. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood SESSION 4: Rightsof the Child 6. Children have the right to education and skills development 7. Children have the right to safe and wholesome recreational activities. 8. Children have the right to be protected from anything that will negatively affect their development and growth. 9. Children have the right to live in an environment that will positively affect their growth and development
- 31. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood SESSION 4: Rightsof the Child 10. Children have the right to the care, assistance, and protection of the State 11. Children have the right to an efficient and honest government. 12. Children have the right to grow up as free and responsible individuals. 13. Children have the right to a name and nationality
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- 33. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood SESSION 6: ServicesAvailable for Responsible Parenthood
- 34. TopicTwo:ResponsibleParenthood SESSION 6: ServicesAvailable for Responsible Parenthood SERVICES/PROGRAMS SOURCE OF SERVICE a. Marriage counseling Municipal Social Welfare & Development Office (MSWDO) b. Parent Effectiveness Training (PET) and Services Municipal Social Welfare & Development Office (MSWDO) c. Family Development Session (Pantawid Program) and Responsible Parenthood and Family Planning (RPFP) classes Municipal Population Office (MPO) d. Classes on Male Involvement in RPFP and Gender Equity (e.g. ERPAT and KATROPA) Municipal Health Office (MHO) e. Parent Education on Adolescent Health Development Commission on Population and Development (POPCOM) g. Health and Nutrition Program Barangay VAWC Desk H. Other Family and marriage – oriented programs by the local government. Local Government Unit
Editor's Notes
- #2 A decree requiring applicant for marriage license to receive instructions on family planning and responsible parenthood. The Family Code of The Philippines All couples applying for a marriage license in the Philippines are required to attend the Pre-marriage Orientation and Counseling (PMOC) Session before they can be issued a license
- #3 Marriage is a major life decision and a lifetime commitment. It is a legal contract that will bind a man and a woman not only for a life of togetherness but also for sharing resources and forming a family. Marriage not only establishes the lives of the couple but also the lives of the children and future generations. The decision to get married, therefore, must be well thought out, and must be jointly made by the couple after careful consideration, thorough understanding, and ample preparation. This is why the PMOC is a crucial first step prior to getting married.
- #4 and those whom the PMOC team may find, based on the couples’ responses on the Marriage Expectations Inventory to have issues that need to be addressed more closely, have to undergo the Pre-Marriage Counseling (PMC) session. Couples who voluntarily want to get counseling may also attend the PMC session.
- #8 Art. 2. No marriage shall be valid, unless these essential requisites are present: (1) Legal capacity of the contracting parties who must be a male and a female; and (2) Consent freely given in the presence of the solemnizing officer. (53a) Art. 3. The formal requisites of marriage are: (1) Authority of the solemnizing officer; (2) A valid marriage license except in the cases provided for in Chapter 2 of this Title; and (3) A marriage ceremony which takes place with the appearance of the contracting parties before the solemnizing officer and their personal declaration that they take each other as husband and wife in the presence of not less than two witnesses of legal age. (53a, 55a) Marriage is a legal contract between husband and wife, but at the same time, a social institution. Therefore, a couple should know fully well what marriage is, its requirements, and the responsibilities that come with it before getting married+ This is because marriage is a life-long commitment that cannot be easily dissolved without legal grounds. Marriage is entered into for two (2) main reasons: to satisfy a man’s and a woman’s need for love and intimacy; and to provide a foundation for the formation of a family.
- #17 Violence against women and their children refers to any act or a series of acts committed by any person against a woman who is his wife, former wife, or against a woman with whom the person has or had a sexual or dating relationship, or with whom he has a common child, or against her child whether legitimate or illegitimate, within or without the family abode, which result in or is likely to result in physical, sexual, psychological harm or suffering, or economic abuse including threats of such acts, battery, assault, coercion, harassment or arbitrary deprivation of liberty.
- #18 The Magna Carta of Women provides for women’s protection from all forms of violence, including those committed by the State and defense of women against gender-based violence (including domestic violence). It also provides equal rights in all matters relating to marriage and family relations. The State shall ensure the same rights for women and men to: enter into and leave marriages, freely choose a spouse, decide on the number and spacing of their children, enjoy personal rights including the choice of a profession, own, acquire, and administer their property, and acquire, change, or retain their nationality+ It also states that the betrothal and marriage of a child shall have no legal effect.
- #19 The law states that rape is committed by a man who shall have carnal knowledge of a woman and uses force, threat, or intimidation. The Supreme Court recognizes the lawmakers intended to include and penalize marital rape under the definition of rape. As such, forced sex between married couples is still rape and cannot be excused under the guise of marriage. (Acosta, 2015).
- #20 Responsible parenthood is the ability of a couple to raise a strong and stable family, and make the family a reliable source of emotional, mental, social, economic and moral support for the children. Part of responsible parenthood is the ability to provide for the needs of the children and support them to achieve their aspirations throughout their development. This includes keeping them healthy, well-educated, socially secure and well-adjusted. Responsible parenting is a joint responsibility of a couple. This joint responsibility starts from the decision on how many children they want and when to have them up to the decisions and actions they take as they raise their children from babyhood to adulthood. The proper development of children depends a lot on how well parents perform their joint parenting responsibilities.
- #21 AUTHORITARIAN - Parents have full authority of their child’s aspect of life PERMISSIVE - Parents do not set standards for their children NEGLECTFUL - Parents are not interested with their children’s affairs AUTHORITATIVE - Parents balance demands and responsiveness
- #22 The New Family Code and the Child and Youth Welfare Code of the Philippines enumerate the duties and responsibilities of parents toward their children. It is important that, before getting married, couples know what these responsibilities are and be able to determine how ready they are to assume these responsibilities or what they need to do to prepare themselves for the task of parenting that lies before them. When couples decide on the number of children they want to have, they should be aware that they have responsibilities to every child, and as the size of their family increases, these responsibilities also increase. Thus, as they plan for the future of their family, they should also plan for providing time and resources to respond to each child’s needs, and be ready to make necessary life improvements accordingly. The couple should be able to care for and relate well with their children as the members of the family increase.
- #24 Communication between parents and children and other members of the family is a vital element of good family relationships. Communication between parents and children sometimes can be a bit more complicated considering the age gap and the differences in interests and orientations, and sometimes even in the language.
- #32 Home management is the process of planning, controlling and evaluating family resources to achieve family goals. It is a decision-making activity shared by the couple. It helps families and couples make maximum use of what they have to attain their goals and aspirations. Proper and wise management of time, energy and family finances, and the ability to foresee and prepare for future eventualities are key elements to effective home management.